We don’t hear much about toxic masculinity anymore. A lot of it is because most people are realizing how much of a misnomer toxic masculinity is. However, there are still quite a few people who do like to talk about toxic masculinity, and That’s where I wanted to throw a little more information in as to what toxic masculinity is where it comes from and what to do about it.
Now many people want to think that there is such thing as toxic masculinity and two appoint I’m gonna actually say the right. However, it’s with a really big caveat so let’s jump in and let’s break this down.
What toxic masculinity is not?
For a couple years, we heard that term toxic masculinity banned about as if everybody knew what it was however, nobody stopped to actually examine what the words were and that’s where a lot of my hang up on the word toxic masculinity came from.
There is no such thing as toxic humans. Nothing we do is actually poisonous. We cannot make another person sick from our actions. From what we say. From what other people perceive as wrong. That whole line of thinking is based in victim mindset.
Now, when they say toxic masculinity, what these doctors like psychiatrist, and feminists, and other people of the such mean is is when they refer to toxic they’re meaning that you have an unfavorable thought about something. That thought creates an emotional response. That’s all you have the choice to be “infected“ or poisoned, or whatever term they would like to use, but it doesn’t mean anybody is actually poisonous or toxic.
What Toxic masculinity is
Toxic masculinity is actually the lack of masculinity. That is the route of all of it. Now I can already see several people grasping there they’re the pearls and pulling their hair claiming no masculinity is harmful.
Just looking at the state of our society proves that’s not the case. From the 60s till now marriage rates have been dropping. There are more single mothers out there who are raising kids because their women study professor told them that was the sign of a strong woman. Except for the fact that that women’s study professor doesn’t know a thing about boys.
These boys, specially intercity boys, gain their knowledge of what they believe masculinity is from other boys in their neighborhood and in their school. These boys don’t have fathers either and and so you have the blind, leading the blind on what it means to be a man.
This is equivalent to your fourth grade friend trying to tell you what sex is like. When you know, he hasn’t even held a girls hand before.
Boys get mixed signals from society from other men who have never had fathers in their lives, and we wonder why their actions are not benefiting to a man.
Where society gets it wrong?
Now it’s true I do dog society quite a bit yet this is a good example of horse. Society has done a huge disservice to itself. Without men, you don’t have a defense against invaders. Nobody likes war, but sometimes war has to be fought it would be nice to think that we could have world peace, but the problem is that people have thoughts. People have emotions.
There is that there are more men in the police force and the fire department and in the military then there are women. It is not because we have told women to not try to be like men, but because women naturally don’t do those things.
Think that boys don’t need men in their life shows you where they’re wrong. Look at the inter cities of LA, New York, and Chicago. Most of the kids who are committing crime don’t have dads they have older kids around them that influence them into doing stuff that they know they don’t need to be doing.
Mentioned the story of the juvenile delinquents before, and that is often a really good example as to why boys need men in their life to understand how to use their masculinity properly.
Many people like to try to point to the man box and say, that is why men act like they do. I would point to the fact that all examples of the bandbox show that there are no grown men directing boys how to be men.
So how do we help these boys?
This is where the noble men the driven men the men who are busting their tail to be honorable, can’t step up. Men who had fathers men who have exercised, therefore pillars, so they have a strong mind, a strong body, a strong sense of purpose, and a strong community Can bring these boys without fathers into the fold.
Show them what it means to be good. Mentor them. Guide them into being better men. How they can be strong men? Show them how they can be trustworthy men. Lead these boys on how going down the path of victimhood is going to take people down the path of sorrow and of loneliness. These are all fixable traits. We have to just start. these boys as humans begging for help so we can guide them into being productive citizens of society because even though I talk bad about society often times we’re always going to have a society and we can turn it around for the good.
