Wasting Wishes
How many times have you said to yourself? I wish I could __________. If you are like most folks, you have probably wished more times than you could count. We often wish for things to go our way. We also wish that our endeavors had turned out the way we wanted them to. Yet no matter how many times we wish, it doesn’t mean that it will come true. As we heard as kids, wish in one hand and spit in the other, did see which one fills up first.
The problem with us just wishing for stuff to happen is that we’re not taking the steps to ensure that it does happen. Many people will stand around and wonder why they can’t have their dreams, all because they wish upon a star. Or wished for other birthday candles. Wishing us fun, but it’s not very productive.
Wishing is not as productive as you think.
Yes, it is very fun. I wish I could. I wish I might have the wish I wish tonight. Ladybug ladybug flew away home. Your house is on fire. Your children ain’t home since I told you this rhyme. Please grant me my wish. You take an eyelash off your friend’s cheek. You make a wish, and you blow it away.
There are so many other poems and sayings when it comes to making wishes. Wishing is very fun. Many times, we make just OK wishes. I wish this night would hurry up, or I wish my wife would not take so long in the bathroom. We have all these wishes, but they’re kind of throwaway wishes more than anything.
Then there are those wishes that we would kinda like to have come true. I wish I could get this next client. I wish my wife were more receptive to me. I wish my kid would show me a little more respect. I wish the boss would see the hard work that I have done. These wishes can be productive, but we often just state them and then let them die on the vine.
That’s because wishing is not productive for us. We see them as just a throwaway thought, and they can be. However, they can also be a direct clue as to what goal you wanna make for yourself.
Wishing puts you in a waiting mindset.
A big problem with wishing, though, is that it doesn’t require any action. We just make wishes, thinking that somehow magically everything’s gonna all come into line and we’re gonna get that big giant McMansion that we’ve been wanting without any hard work.
It would be nice if life worked like that, however, it doesn’t. We have to make an effort to accomplish our goals. We have to make a plan and accomplish that goal.
If you do not make a plan, then you’re just gonna sit there and wait. And then you’re gonna get mad, upset, resentful, or bitter because your wishes never came true. That’s not the problem. The problem is that you didn’t try.
It’s kind of like the blonde who wanted $1 million. A blonde saw that the jackpot was $1 million, and so she prayed to God Lord, please give me a chance to win that million-dollar lottery and that later on that night the numbers were read out and she didn’t win.
The next week she wished to God. Please let me have this million dollars. I will help so many people with this money, but I can’t do it without your help.. God, please give me this money. She still didn’t win.
The third week comes along, as she prays really, really hard, the hardest she has ever prayed. Lord, please give me this million-dollar jackpot. I will do everything I can to glorify you. Please just give me this chance, and again she set up for the reading of the numbers, and Low behold, she still didn’t win. She got mad. She got really mad, and she sat down and she prayed one more time. She was like God. I’ve asked you for three weeks to help me win this million-dollar lottery so that I could help glorify you. Yet, you didn’t do anything. How am I supposed to help people if you won’t help me? God booms down after that and says Well, you do have to buy a lottery ticket.
You say you have to do the work. You can’t just make a wish and wait for it to come true., It will just wither and die on the vine, and you will become a bitter, angry person.
Wishing causes you to have a victim mindset.
Much like that blonde, you start looking for reasons why your wishes don’t come true. You start looking at it. Society and looking for a bogeyman as to why you didn’t get your wish. But in all reality, the person who’s responsible for you not getting your wish is the one looking in the mirror.
I know this sounds harsh, but I write this for my sake because I’m guilty of this very thing. I want to blame everybody else for the lack of results. I want all these great, grand, wonderful results, but what was I doing to earn those results? The truth is not much doing a little bit of busy work here, a little bit of busy work there, but not pushing the ball forward at all. I was not checking to see if it made the boat go faster. I was too busy adding chrome to the whole of the boat.
It is very easy to fall into the victim mindset. You wanna blame everybody else, but who is actually at fault? Even when you say, I know precisely who to blame is that guy over there who refused to sell me the products I needed to get my stuff done. It’s still not his fault.
Use wishes as a means to set goals.
What you need to really do is start looking at wishes as steps in your goal. These are the powerful wishes not to throw away. These are the wishes that will help you get further down the road. These are the wishes that will allow the boat to go faster. But to be able to do that when you make a goal, you’re setting your mind up for I’ve gotta work. Instead of just wishing, which will cause you to sit down and wait for something to happen. It’s in God‘s hands. God wants you to do stuff so that he can put it in your hands. You have to do the hard labor. You have to earn the right to have the nice stuff you want. You cannot blame other people for the lack of the nice stuff that you want, because the only person who has taken it away from you is you, deciding. Would you rather play PlayStation or would you rather work on your business?
So when you’re making plans and you catch yourself saying I wish I could find the solution to this problem I am facing. Take that wish and turn it into a goal. Start making plans on how you’re gonna find the solution to the problem you’re talking about. Take the effort, except the fact that you’re probably going to fail the first, second, third, 10th, or hundredth time. Because you’re learning how you have to earn that goal. You have to learn how to attract the right client. You have to understand where the work has to be applied. You have to actually use the lever on the folks that you have discovered to get the rock moving so that your goal can be completed.
When you do that, you will find that your dreams and wishes do actually come true. Your dreams and wishes can actually happen. The trick is you can’t just let them sit. You have to actually get up and do the work.
