This week is the start of a series that I am going to be doing about The Four Pillars of a Relaxed Man. so what better way than to share why men need to be masculine. I know that the producer of this video can be seen as a bit controversial but their message on why masculinity in men is good for society.
It is sad that today’s society is trying to make men more like women. I am sure it has to do with equality or maybe the new buzzword equity. Yet it is impossible for men to be women and women to be men. I have my thoughts and theories as to why but that isn’t all that important to today’s topic.
Men are needed and in today’s video, we see what happens when you have men who are emasculated, you get more of what they call Toxic masculinity. The people who want to rid society of this incorrectly think that making men less man-like, will balance society yet because they want to remove masculinity they are just creating more of what they don’t like.
Men are no less masculine when they help out. No woman can do everything by herself either. There are still good men out there. Not all need to prove it with paycheck but rather helping more in general when needed. Taking out trash helping with cart or cleaning floors. In fact it helps to not be asked. No man or woman should be the other sex. Ladies will still look sexy even in office. We love them it is just doing it another way. No sexism is more valuable in fact Shannon Doherty would encourage us in that fashion. We miss her very much.
Men are still masculine in some ways by not being toxic and embracing change. They do not have to be breadwinners as long as you do the task and help out like clean the floors take out trash help with the cart. No man or woman are less of this or that when it masculinity or feminity in fact society needs a balance of equality.
Before I jump into my response, I want to say thank you for the comment and the response. I love to push back it makes me verify what I am thinking. The heat of an argument is the only way truth really comes to the surface. So again thank you.
Well, the thoughts are interesting and I believe women are finally realizing their worth. I honestly haven’t met a man yet who wants to keep a good hard-working woman down. Yet Look at how boys are treated in schools. They are expected to sit and pay attention, and boys don’t learn that way. They are very tactile learners. They have more energy to expel than young girls do. Not a dig on girls at all they are just calmer than boys. That is one reason they are often called ADHD incorrectly. They are boys and they are just very active. Instead of educating boys so that they can learn to the best of their ability, the teachers, school administrators, and sadly many parents go right along with this, solution is to dope the boys up. Fill them with meds that make them calm down. Then you take away the controlled violence of the games they play, and you have boys who don’t know how to boy. These young men grow up anxiety-ridden and don’t know their place in the world. Sadly this leads to boys struggling and sadly many are ending their life because they don’t know how to handle themselves. I also would point a finger at the fatherless homes as many problems with the “Toxic Masculinity” because these boys don’t have a masculine man to look up to. They don’t have a masculine network. Many only have older boys without fathers and that works about as well as your friend in high school telling you about sex and you know darn good and well they have never even kissed someone.
Now over to the need for the traditional heroes breadwinners, and defenders/saviors this is where we really do diverge in our agreement. Need for heroes? What is the biggest hit in pop culture right now? That is superheroes. Are there women superheroes yep, but the world is craving heroes in a huge way. Men are naturally looked to for leadership roles. That isn’t a sexist thing like many people believe. It is just that men are naturally stronger and have a more commanding voice. So people do turn to men more often. Society needs masculine men and feminine women. Men who are strong and speak in an assertive tone. This is lost to today’s men. They are too busy trying to be the nice guy and the nice guys never win.
Don’t believe me? Why are 80% of divorces started by the wife? Part of it is the lack of communication on both sides, true, but more of it is because men have been told by society that they need to be more feminine. When they do this, they start acting like the girlfriend of their wife. They forsake their masculine friends because they are seeking approval from their wives. They eventually lose their identity of who they are. They are trying to be the nice guy and so the wife loses respect for them. SHe doesn’t want a weak boy as a romantic partner. She wants a strong assertive man. A man who says they are going to the steak house for supper, not a 45-minute discussion of what she wants to eat. A woman still likes for the man to take control. She will turn to a man to protect her.
She will still turn to a man who brings home the bacon. Can women bring earn the lion’s share in a marriage? Yeah, she can, but she prefers that the man makes more money (https://ifstudies.org/blog/better-educated-women-still-prefer-higher-earning-husbands). Women still want men who are more masculine not the squishy weak emasculated males of today’s society. A good example is Korey Lane (https://www.glamour.com/story/hooking-up-with-trump-voters-essay). Women want men who are driven and have a passion for what they are doing not a grown boy.
Interesting. I’m afraid I disagree though. The lady in this video is living in a previous century! The reality is that society no longer needs men to be the traditional heroes, breadwinners, defenders or saviours. Today, women can do all those jobs and technology can often make up for any differentiations in physical strength. She claims not to know any woman who doesn’t want those traditional masculine traits in a man – well, all I can say is I’m not sure what planet she is living on! Most women I know, including myself, are looking for a man who will respect them as his equal. That does NOT mean he has to be feminine however. What’s been happening is not the feminizing of men, but the balancing of male-female equality in society. Men just have to find their role and place in the new world of equality (which isn’t even completely equal yet). With any kind of re-calibrating of behaviours, it comes down to understanding the impact of those behaviours on others, and modifying as necessary so as not to cause harm. That’s true for both men and women.
And as a result, women are far more unhappier than they have ever been in history. Women are not designed to take on masculine roles. 1 in 4 women in the untied states are in some sort of antidepressant medication. Divorce is sky high and there’s a study showing that in a few years most women will be single and without children by the age of 30. That’s embarrassing. Modern day feminism has destroyed female values and has lowered women to copying men. It’s all agenda driven. Face it: women are not men and they should not live and behave like men. You’re no good at it anyway.