Many men talk about how they have to get affirmed by the woman in their life. Maybe you are like the speaker of this week’s video and you are scarred for life. No, literally scarred, Rich Cooper talks about how when he was young he dumped boiling water on him and how all through school he would hide the scars on his body. It didn’t matter if it was 90 degrees on the beach he would have a long sleeve on.
Now that is a physical form of damage on a man, So how did he become the Entrepreneur in Cars? How? well that you would have to ask him cause I actually don’t fully know his story. Yet he talks about how he realized around 19 -20 that he wasn’t broken and accepted who he was and started moving.
This is the message that Rich is trying to share. You are reliant! You are not a damaged person. You don’t need that lover in your life. You don’t need external validation. Yeah, validation is good from your wife or girlfriend, but not needed. That is a story you are telling yourself.
What are you identifying as? Yeah, that word is being used way too damn much these days in the world of identity politics. That is because your identity isn’t identified by anyone but you. Yet so many men want to take the identity they created and they want to hold on to that identity even when it doesn’t serve them. They see themselves as abused or they are ADHD, or on the spectrum of some ailment. These men don’t think that their ADHD is supposed to be a hindrance because of how so many people treated them. when in reality ADHD when applied is a superpower.
Everything in your life is a choice. You can choose to be a broken man who nobody loves and your actions will reflect that. Then again you can choose to be you and accept yourself as you and people can love it or leave it. Their thoughts don’t matter to you. Their thoughts are not yours. So they don’t matter. Even if your mom called you fat and ugly all the live long days you have the choice to accept her judgment of you or you can live your life on your terms.
