How do you stop having to react to what everyone else does? With my tongue planted firmly in y cheek, I say that the word triggered is very triggering for me. Why? because it is a victim-oriented word. You have no power to choose what you do. You have someone else pulling your trigger, and you act from there. No power. No agency. Someone else is making you act like a fool. It cant be your fault. Except that it is all your fault. The mean orange man has no power over you. The Darn Dems have no power over you. The only person who is controlling you is You!
Now it would appear that people are starting to get the hint that being triggered is a victim-oriented word and I am not hearing it too much except in certain psychological circles. Yet there are many people who still believe they can be triggered by what other people do say or think and to not have control over yourself is rather sad in my opinion.
So how does The School Of Life suggest to stop being triggered?
Now the narrator starts with some interesting points and the big one is that you had a horrible experience happen to you at one time in the past. For many things, I can see that being the case. Yet many more people are just reacting to stimuli they aren’t intentionally thinking of. The example they are using is on social media someone who dives into a deep despair because of the other people who are showing up on their feed. The person in question isn’t controlling their thoughts they just let their mind decent into that despair and self-loathing. Is it because of their past events? possible Now is that event traumatic? To modern kids, yeah being let down does appear to be traumatic. Yet something being traumatic is just a thought. It is an observation of a circumstance.
Now one thing I agree with is that being triggered is where you lose your power of discrimination. That loss of power is the very act of being a victim. A victim is someone who willingly gives up their power. To who what when or where? Doesn’t matter, they have given up their power or more precisely they have refused to acknowledge the power they have.
I will disagree with him in that he says that we have no ability to refine our thoughts around a historic circumstance. That is completely false and we do have the ability to change our thoughts around a circumstance. Does love fix it? Yeah in a way. You have to love yourself enough to call out what you truly believe and to point to when you are running on an unintentional model. Yes, you can have a friend or family member do this. A Therapist or a coach can both do this for you too. You have to have someone who is willing to lovingly call out the lies you are telling yourself. This can be rough at times but it will help you disseminate the BS you are telling yourself and the truth of the circumstance.
