This week’s video is a TED Talk. And is a mother-daughter team that has a cool way to making sure that there is a strong family relationship. This video is presented by Rosie and Claire Erasmus with a wonderful English accent.
They start off with the saying that you want to take care of your body and mind because they are the 2 places you have to live. They then jump into the point that our families often have digital babysitters. These are the Mobile devices and other computer-based items we use to find our own entertainment.
These devices are great for entertainment but they are often causing the young family to not bond as they use to. Dad is either playing games or on the internet and mom is on her phone. The kiddos are then often on their own devices. This takes the level of communications down to hardly any. The average family spends about 49 minutes a day together. Which in all is not all that much.
Because of the decrease in communications, kids and parents are forgetting how to open up and communicate with each other. So the speakers have some great tips to use.
One is to not have any devices at the dinner table. They have a Heartbreak hotel which to me says that the mother Claire likes Elvis a bit. Yet, this forces the kids to have to be present while eating. If you incorporate the single topic discussion rule you can even bring the kids further into the discussions.
Now to grow the relationships even more with the Great strategy. Great is an anachronism that helps with building stronger relationships.
Give
Claire talks about giving to the family, but not just the family. Develope a need to give to each other and people outside of the family. She mentions give lots of hugs and affirmations but also give to charities and the like.
Relate
eat together spend quantities of time together When it is supper time eat at the table, not in front of the television. Have all of the distractions turned off.
Energize
Get exercise together. Go for a walk as a family. Claire also mentions getting plenty of sleep. You are able to be more present when you are well-rested.
Awareness
Talk notice when the family is “off” in some way and see if you can fix the problem
Try something new
Be adventurous