Getting Beyond the “I Don’t Want To” Barrier and Living – ep 205

What part of your routine do you always try to skip if you can?

This question is great in that it shows a common problem many people face and why

Know your why

• Have A clear picture
• Have a plan and execute it
• Have an accountability partner
• Examine why you don’t want to do it.

• Is it out of alignment with you or your goals?
• Is it something you need to delegate?
• What are your thoughts about getting past the obstacle?

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In episode,  we delve into the common challenge of setting new year’s resolutions and subsequently abandoning them shortly after. This often stems from the obstacle of not having the desire to put in the necessary effort or make the required changes. 

I shed light on the resistance and obstacles we encounter in various aspects of our lives, ranging from mundane tasks to substantial responsibilities like paying taxes. I lay emphasis on the importance of making choices based on our genuine desires, even if it entails exerting effort and making sacrifices. Life consists of a series of choices, and conquering the “I don’t want to” mentality is pivotal for personal growth and success.

The easiness of the path we choose often stems from our unwillingness to endure the discomfort associated with doing things we don’t want to do. Reflecting on a blogging prompt, I realized that I consistently try to skip certain parts of my routine. I don’t want to wake up early and exercise or engage in activities that take me out of my comfort zone. However, if I truly aspire to make changes in my life, I must rise above these desires.

One effective way to tackle this is by having a clear vision of what I want to achieve. In my case, it involves building a prosperous coaching practice and leading life-changing trips for men. However, I cannot accomplish these goals if I settle for a meager income. I highlight the irony of complaining about wealthy individuals, as they provide opportunities for others. Stepping out of my comfort zone, I outline a specific vision for my future, including the house I intend to construct and the land I aspire to possess.

Although this vision may evolve along the way, I presently possess a plan and a willingness to embrace failure as an integral part of the process. Despite attempting different approaches such as advertising and sales, they didn’t yield desired results because I didn’t have the inclination to pursue them in the first place. Moving on, we delve into the significance of honing selling skills and finding effective strategies to overcome obstacles.

One suggestion is cultivating an accountability partnership to maintain motivation and stay on track. We underline the importance of examining the resistance we experience towards certain tasks and goals and assessing whether they align with our values and personality traits. Additionally, delegating tasks that fall outside our expertise or aren’t worth our time is crucial. Appreciating the value of our time aids in prioritizing tasks efficiently. Shifting focus, we discuss the concept of our different zones.

Initially, we address the issue of spending money on tasks that we could delegate to others. Instead of investing in expensive equipment, hiring technicians proficient in efficiently handling such tasks proves to be a cost-effective option.

• We then explore the idea of different zones within our work. The first is the zone of incompetence, where we falter with tasks that we lack skills in. 
• The zone of competence follows, where we possess proficiency but not necessarily passion.
• Many find themselves operating within the zone of excellence, where they exhibit high levels of skill but still experience friction and burnout.
• Lastly, there is the zone of genius, where our true passion and calling reside.

Identifying and delegating tasks according to our zones is paramount. Mindset plays a crucial role in overcoming obstacles and achieving success. By examining our thoughts and making subtle shifts in perspective, we can surmount challenges and unleash our full potential. Concluding the episode, I express immense gratitude for listeners and make an exciting announcement. I will be giving away five spots for a six-month coaching package completely free of charge! Yes, you heard it right, absolutely free. However, this opportunity necessitates time, effort, and a testimonial from participants at the end. This arrangement enables me to obtain testimonials while simultaneously providing value to individuals. It doesn’t matter who you are or what aspect you want to work on, we will collaborate for six months, once a week, to tackle any challenges you face and set you on the path to success.

Interested individuals can email me at

bryan@relaxedmail.com

, with the subject line indicating their desire for the free coaching.

We will then schedule a Zoom call to find a mutually convenient time. Keep in mind that these five spots are limited, so act swiftly! Future opportunities at reduced rates will be available, but don’t wait for that. Lastly, I reassure listeners that they can reach out to me through social media or personal contacts with any questions they may have. With that, I bid them a fantastic and productive week ahead, urging them to confront any obstacles head-on.

00:00:00 New Year’s Resolutions: Overcoming the “I Don’t Want It”
00:01:07 Introduction: Helping Men Overcome Suffering and Play Small
00:02:36 Teaser: Big Announcement at the End of the Show
00:04:35 The Resistance in Our Lives and the Swamp of Ida
00:06:11 Choosing “I Don’t Want” Because It’s Easier
00:07:18 Overcoming “I Don’t Want” to Make Changes in Life
00:09:31 Dreaming of Living Off the Land
00:11:04 Accountability and Finding Alignment with Yourself
00:17:35 The Costly Mistake of Misallocated Resources
00:19:08 Finding Your Zone of Genius
00:22:21 Setting up a console call to address the problem
00:23:51 Announcement: Giving away free coaching spots for testimonials
00:24:38 Offering Free Coaching for All, Regardless of Gender or Genre
00:26:01 Limited Time Offer: Discounts Decrease Over Time