News
going to be making some changes to when things are being released. I want to keep the current release schedule for the video of the week the Wednesday blog post and the podcast but I have lots of other plans for the site that are being ignored so Once a month there will be only a video and a podcast. If I can do the other plans and take out an item of the honey-do list and I still have time to write then you can consider the blog post a bonus.
But I have been learning about some of the steps I am needing to attract more clients for signing up. To do that I have to focus on other parts of the site. For instance the landing page for the divorce recovery workshop. Still working on the name but I want to get it done so I can help those men struggling with their purpose in the midst of their marriage falling apart. I also need to work on the Brotherhood of Men’s Landing page. I am getting people looking at it but they are not nibbling. So many items like this that need to be changed.
The Podcast will keep going I am not willing to let it slide just yet. I know I need to work on my short game for this business and the long game will still be there.
I am also going to drop the question of the week. Been doing it for about a year and no emails. So I will wait for enough listeners to show up and start asking questions when that happens then I will bring it back. It was a good experiment to see if I can get some people to interact with the show but they just are talking yet.
Main Topic
We are men of power yet what is keeping us from being powerful? We often want to point the blame to someone else or some external circumstance
Examples of Disempowering thoughts
- It’s not MY fault, Everybody/somebody did something to me and now I’m all screwed up.
- I can’t do follow my dream, I need to prioritize OTHER people because I’m a good person
- I can’t think of that right now I am in too much pain.
- I don’t have time right now I am just too busy.
- When the kids are out of the house
- When the time is right
- I will get it done someday
- I would if I have enough money
- It’s easy for them!
- If I had their influence…
- If I had their money…
- If…
- I am practical
- Im not that good
- Thats how they get you
- That just how it goes
- I have the worst luck
- I suck at_______
- I know they are laughing at me
- I should have started 10 years ago
- I dont want to be a jerk.
- Its easier said than done
- She doesn’t like me
- She dosn’t like sex
- I cant perform as she wants
- I cant satify her
- I have never done this before
How to change
why are you thinking small?
You think small because of fear. You fear the worst may happen. Could the worst happen? what is the worst? For some, the worst is looking like a fool. While others fear being successful and being called all the. names they called successful people. It could be that you are fearing that you will be judged by your friends as a sellout or worse.
According to Tripp Lanier many times we play life small because want one or more of these 4 things and we are afraid that if we don’t play life small we won’t get these
- Freedom
- Love
- Aliveness
- Peace
In fact, because you are living life small is why you are not receiving most of these.
Ask yourself probing questions
Ask yourself questions that dig deeper into why you are thinking this way.
- What is your why?
- Why do you think the way you do?
- When were you told that thought?
- Who was always telling you that you weren’t good enough
- When as you were growing up did you notice adults saying that very thing?
- Is what you believe really true or are you just basing it on what you were told?
- Did someone close to you tell you your dreams were wrong or impractical?
- Is your thoughts based in fear or scarcity?
- Where did these thoughts orginate?
Be honest with your answers
This can be difficult but it is possible to tell yourself the truth. Often we will actually lie to ourselves so that we don’t have to face the uncomfortable feelings of our beliefs are actually not matching up to what we are believing.
Change your Programming
When you find yourself thinking these thoughts that are holding you back change that programming. Instead of you are always unlucky, try I make my luck. I am not good enough to be a part of that group try I am good enough or I am going to be good enough that they can’t ignore me. You can take those limiting beliefs and with determination, you can alter them. It’s not easy and you will fall back into your old habits when you aren’t paying attention. Yet, you can change how you view yourself.
Start doing the opposite of what you are telling yourself. Think you can’t cook? then start cooking. Are you going to burn the eggs from time to time? Yep, but you have a choice to get mad at yourself, make it fun give yourself grace and laugh it up. Life is way too short to take seriously.
