Question of The Week By The Brotherhood Of Men
I wonder …do know or have contact with anyone that helps single parents pull in the missing element of a mother or father energy in parenting as a single parent or co-parent?
Andrea Fitzpatrick
How do single parents help their child with the opposite sex influence? This can be single mothers with sons or single fathers with daughters. This also goes for single fathers needing to find A feminine influence for their sons and Girls need a masculine influence in their life. The best way is to find someone who is of that nature that you are needing and ask them if they would mind being a mentor for them.
So why do sons need both masculine men and feminine women in their lives? It is for balance. Men are good at teaching kids to be tough. That there is, a time and a place for showing emotions and how to act around men. While women are good at helping kids to emote and to gain empathy. As I have mentioned before Men are not better than women and women are not better than men. They complete the whole puzzle. That is what feminists get wrong. That is what men going their own way get wrong.
Are we supposed to understand the opposite sex? Not fully, no. Each half has a part to play and those parts are important for all of society.
So where do you find someone of the opposite sex to help make sure your child is balanced? Well, a great place is church. Another place is in your neighborhood. If you don’t know your neighbors why not? Get out and introduce yourself. Get to know your neighbors and you will expand your wellspring for helpin matters such as this.
Main topic
Now I am not talking about the normal physical attraction.
Do you have any of these attributes?
Whiner
This is the person who is either always feeling sorry for themselves, and whining about how much they suck, or the person who can’t see anything positive
The Ask-Hole
This is the person who always wants advice but doesn’t really want advice. They will always re-ask the question in the new way. Yet they never take that advice or steps you suggest for them to get better. These people are always looking for sympathy in a very people pleaser way. They often want to make people feel important by asking questions thought they never really intend on fixing the problem.
The Problem Magnet
I talked about this last week. This person always has a problem in their life. Often seen as a perpetual victim and sadly they like the attention of having a problem. They want people to feel sorry for them a pat on the back and words of encouragement.
The Mooch
I was this for a long time. I took and took and took and rarely contributed back. This can be financial moochers for also emotional moochers. They always seem to be just a touch short on time and funds. You can’t expect them to even try to pay back because they
The Liar
You can’t trust much if anything that they say. These people will often stretch the truth to fit their needs. If they are caught they work hard to make up another lie to fit that old lie. These people work way too hard in their life because they have so many plates spinning and act as the victim because nobody believes them.
The Clinger
We all know that one needy child. They cant be alone. Sometimes this is called the clinger. It is good to feel needed but when you are always around 24/7 and you can’t do anything alone. All because the clinger is there almost from the moment you appear to the time you leave. These people often are also people pleasers
The People Pleaser
This person will do anything to get you to like them. Sounds nice doesn’t it? Yet the People Pleaser is one of the most unattractive people because of the manipulation you will come across. They will lie. They will over book. They will invade your personal space. They will be the ask-hole. They will do anything to get you to like what they do but it will be hollow. They hide their personality. They won’t share their own thoughts in a discussion. They wont accept a person as they are they want to make that person like them.
The worst part is that you will accept them at first they are like a Monet painting. Beautiful at first but the close you look at them the bigger mess emotionally they become.
So IF you find yourself with any of these attributes find a way to change. It is possible. You can get a coach or join a men’s group and let them know what you are wanting to change. They can help hold you accountable by being aware when you are being an ask-hole, or a people pleaser. You can start to become a very attractive person just by making changes from these types of people.
