This week, we will talk about grace. As we spend time with families, society has decided that you should protect your trauma and nurse it instead of facing whatever you deem to be trauma and growing from it. I want to look at grace and why it is important to us as men.
What is Grace
Grace is unearned forgiveness
Grace comes from a place of strength
A weak man will not forgive a person who has wronged him, While a strong masculine man will grant a person grace more readily.
What is meant by allowing
Look at grace as an intersection. You and another person who has wronged you are on perpendicular streets. Do you allow the other person to go or do they have to wait till you say they go? This shows how people can impede their lives by holding a grudge and trying to “punish” the other person. The sad part of this is that that person isn’t affected by you. So the punishment only affects you.
Why allow grace?
Allowing grace to happen provides for you to be free. It will enable you to step fully into yourself. You recognize that other people have no power over you.
You give your power and you commit your autonomy to a person who doesn’t care for you. They don’t think of you. So allowing yourself to give them grace by letting the grudge go and not worrying about them allows you to reclaim your power and autonomy.
Who do you allow grace to?
Those who you believe have wronged you. Yeah that uncle who hurt your feelings you actually forgive him. Your dad for not being there at your big game because he was doing what he thought was right. You can forgive him too. Your mom because she moved out of the house. You can forgive her. Your parents were drug abusers and they let many unsavory people into the house. You can forgive for that too.
To Yourself.
You have let yourself down many many times. Yet you often hold a bigger grudge against yourself for your shortcomings. What would life be like if you accepted that you screwed up and then let yourself be from the self-abuse you are performing?
Would you like to be free of the self grudges you impose on yourself? Would you like to see what your world could be if you mastered the storm inside? Start a new year mastering the storm and seeing how free you be when you alllow for grace to flow. Take the Storm Masters Challenge this next year.
