How do you have a better relationship? One of the best things about relationships is that we get instant feedback when we are off base. That feedback is based on whether or not we are paying attention, but we do get feedback from those we have a relationship with.
We want our relationships to have more meaning and sadly that meaning can only be created by us. We want others to try so hard to do the impossible and we then turn around and blame that other person for their failure to make us happy.
Some of the perks of a relationship allow for us to be stronger and have better insight because you have a person reaching over and saying hey stop being a jerk. Hey act right! This is thanks to having the natural and welcome contention in a relationship.