We often will feel disappointment because of what we want to expect to happen and that result doesn’t come about. How do you handle that disappointment? Are you resentful or do you see it as a learning moment?
This comes from what we are thinking of ourselves or others who let us down. How do we stop feeling let down? How do we overcome the disappointment we experience when something happens? The answer is from Mel Robbins and her video on how to overcome disappointment.
One of the big takeaways I have is what expectation actually is.
Expectation is resentment waiting to happen
We are often expecting something big to happen this year, week, month, or even tomorrow. We expect our boss to give us that big raise or that corner office and Sadly it’s not happening. We set ourselves up for disappointment time and time again. We want to hold on to that resentment and anger. We want to claim that resentment is ours.
Now Mel created this during the whole Covid lockdown of 2020-2021 so that is what the source of disappointments was for many people at that time. However, her tips of marking a time in the future work even for now. Yeah, we can hold a grudge and bear that weight as if we are Atlas. Remember that the resentment is all on us it isn’t because our boss failed us in some way or our wife didn’t do something we wanted her to do. It is because we created the whole problem in our minds and we can change that pain and hurt feeling.
So we don’t make any expectations we just let everyone let us down all the time? You can make expectations just make sure you voice those expectations If you don’t how is the other person supposed to know what you are expecting?
