- You draw attention to other’s lack of action
- You lose friends who just want to hang
- Your mother will worry about you
- People will judge you
- People will actively hope for you to fail
- Other people will feel bad about themselves
- They will resent you
- Self-improvement is lonely
All that sounds like a good reason not to better yourself, right? Wrong that is the very reason to better yourself. You have to look at their lack of action as a motivator to actually propel yourself to better heights. The other people can come along but they most likely won’t. Why? because they’re scared and don’t want to become uncomfortable.
If you are living your life to make others feel better then you are actively not bettering yourself. You are living on other people’s terms, not yours. Yes getting to the top of your goal or dream can appear lonely. but if you look around there are people who are in the same boat as you. They are fighting each day to get around their obstacles. They are working on their thoughts of a certain circumstance and the only way they can do it is on their own.
You have the choice to take care of your friends and family members who don’t want you to improve or you can improve and show them what is actually possible. You will want to pull those who don’t want to follow yet that won’t work either. They have to want to get to where you are on their own. You have a better chance of them coming along when you do it yourself.
It seems cruel to a people pleaser to go on that adventure and to just leave people you love behind. However, it is the act of loving them that you need to leave them behind. Give them a reason to care. Give them a reason to even try. The only way you can do that is by improving yourself.
